Are you curious about how to use a dildo safely and with satisfaction? You’ve come to the right place! Whether it’s your first time or you want to try some new techniques, we’ll walk you through tips such as how to choose your first dildo, clean it, use lube, and find the right positions. These tips will help you feel your best and have a good time, whether you’re on your own or with a partner. Let’s explore together!
How to Use a Dildo Safely: What Are the Essential Safety Tips?
If you’re new to using a dildo or already familiar with one, the important part is to keep it fun and comfortable—always think safety! Take it slowly, and pay attention to what feels good to you and what does not. Our bodies all respond differently, so give yourself time to learn yours. It is completely okay to use a small dildo, use plenty of lube, and go at a speed that feels comfortable. There is no rush, and you should never do anything that feels uncomfortable for you.
If you are with a partner, openly share what you like and don’t like. Communication helps build trust and makes it a safe adventure, no matter if you’re both beginners or seasoned explorers. If you are exploring solo or with a partner, try looking on an online community like Reddit for helpful advice about types, cleaning, and how to use them.
Never be embarrassed to ask questions about hygiene, lube, or how to avoid pain. Always wash your dildo before and after use with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner. This is especially true if you are sharing a toy with a partner or using it for anal play.
In short: take it slow, communicate, stay clean, and always ask if you have any doubts! With all of this in mind, you and your partner—or just you—can have an amazing experience exploring your dildo, safely of course.
How to Use a Dildo for Beginners: What Are the Step-by-Step Techniques?
If you are a first-time user, a good way to enjoy using a dildo is to slowly ease into the experience.
- Choose a beginner-friendly dildo. A smaller, smooth, and body-safe silicone dildo works well. Avoid larger sizes or dildos with lots of texture that might be overwhelming.
- Before inserting the dildo, take some time to relax your pelvic muscles by taking deep, gentle breaths or gently massaging yourself outside your body. Solo foreplay can help—spend a minute or two getting yourself aroused with your hands or a vibrator before inserting the dildo. Arousal allows for easier insertion.
- Once ready, have some water-based lube handy. Lube keeps everything slick and comfortable. Take your time, go slow. Gently place the tip of the dildo against your opening (without pushing it inside, just let it rest) and check in with your body. Move in half-inch increments, stopping if you feel any pain. It is completely normal to feel a little nervous or unsure, especially your first time.
- Taking your time, using enough lube, and relaxing will help alleviate discomfort and build self-confidence. Over time you’ll learn what you enjoy, then you can explore more shapes and sizes at your own comfort level. Have fun!
What Are the Best Positions to Use a Dildo for Maximum Pleasure?
Whether you’re lying down, sitting, or standing, do what’s comfortable for you while you explore what feels best. Lying back with knees bent is a great way to control how deep you want to insert the toy. Sitting up straight and standing are also options that may offer different sensations.
For vaginal play, lying down or sitting with legs open can be good options. For anal play, being on your side or on your hands and knees can help you relax and insert the toy without discomfort. Men can stimulate their prostates in these angles or with their back against the floor and knees bent for a great angle.
If you have a suction cup dildo, play hands-free by sticking it to a smooth spot, like the wall or the floor, so you can thrust or ride it while your hands stay free.
Playing with a partner? Get creative with how they can hold the toy or use a strap-on! Always check in about what feels good for both of you; the best position is the one that feels best. Have fun exploring!
How to Use a Dildo with a Partner: What Are the Communication and Consent Tips?
Incorporating a dildo into partnered sexual activity can be very pleasurable! Start with an honest conversation about curiosities and boundaries, without pressure for either partner to use the dildo in any specific way. If either partner is new to using a dildo, take things slow and check in along the way.
If a partner wants to incorporate pegging (using a dildo for anal penetration), start small, use plenty of lube, and keep breathing and relaxing. Pegging involves trust, consent, and moving at a comfortable pace.
Comfort and consent go hand in hand. Always take your partner’s feedback and be ready to stop, slow down, or skip an action if something doesn’t feel right. Additional stimulation (such as oral sex or manual stimulation) in combination with the dildo can also help.
Common worries are pain, cleanliness, and embarrassment. These can usually be addressed through patience, good hygiene, and keeping things light and humorous. Exploring together increases mutual trust, pleasure, and communication.
Why Use a Dildo for Solo Play and How to Maximize Pleasure?
No matter your experience level, using a dildo solo can be a fresh way to explore what feels good. As long as you take a few safety measures, it can be sensual and fun! First, make sure your toy is washed and you have lube ready. Take your time and listen to your body as you explore sensations.
Try using the dildo alongside manual or mechanical clitoral and/or prostate stimulation. Different types of stimulation can produce a higher sense of pleasure and satisfaction. You can also play with speed, angle, and motion to find what is most pleasurable for you.
Solo play isn’t just about pleasure—it can provide relaxation, alleviate stress, and improve confidence. Being sexual with yourself promotes sexual health and the longevity of partnered sexual experiences. Explore and become aware of your preferences. Enjoy it; your body will thank you!
What Are Common Problems When Learning How to Use a Dildo and How to Solve Them?
Most beginners will hit a few bumps and that’s perfectly fine! Usually, if you’re feeling pain when inserting toys, it comes from holding tension and trying to rush. Breathe deeply, use plenty of water-based lube, and be patient with yourself.
It’s normal to feel nervous or anxious. Remind yourself that you are in no rush. Reaching out to a friend or an online community can help ease anxiety.
If you experience pain due to dryness or irritation, try using a better-quality water-based lube and make sure your toy is clean. Pain from sensitivity may also be due to the toy’s material, so look for body-safe silicone options.
Material and size are important. Smaller, simple, and seamless toys are ideal for beginners. Avoid larger or experimental options at first. Don’t skimp on lube, don’t rush insertion, and always keep your toys clean.
After some practice, you’ll find your comfort and confidence in using sex toys!
How to Choose the Right Dildo for Your Needs: What Factors Matter?
Convenience and enjoyment are the most important aspects when buying dildos. Materials are key: silicone is body-safe, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean. Glass and metal are firmer and can be warmed or cooled, but are less pliable. Avoid porous or cheap materials that can harbor bacteria.
Size and shape matter. Most beginners prefer smaller, smooth dildos. For vaginal use, average penis size will suffice. For anal use, select gently curved toys or smaller toys with a firm base to avoid slipping. Curved shapes allow for greater G-spot or prostate stimulation, while straight shapes emphasize girth.
If interested in pegging or double penetration, find toys that are firmer plastic or compatible with harnesses. For greater stimulation, vibrating or inflatable dildos are options.
Ultimately, whether you want soft and flexible or firm and intense, there is a sex toy to fit your needs and allow for safe and pleasurable stimulation.
How to Use Advanced Dildo Techniques for Greater Pleasure?
To increase satisfaction, try advanced techniques such as deep thrusting, rocking, and rotating your dildo. Deep thrusting stimulates deeper spots, rocking creates gentle pressure on sensitive areas, and rotating the toy offers different sensations.
To maximize pleasure, “milk the G-spot” with a curved dildo by using slow circular movements to stimulate the G-spot, which can lead to intense orgasms.
You may also combine dildos with other toys such as vibrators and try warming or cooling the toy (if safe).
For anal or double penetration, use plenty of lube, train your body to accept smaller toys before moving to larger ones, and use toys with a base wider than the anus or rectum.
Give yourself time to adjust, listen to your body, and communicate preferences with your partner(s). Advanced techniques can open up a variety of pleasurable experiences. Have fun, be safe, and enjoy!
How to Maintain and Store a Dildo: What Are the Best Practices?
Keeping your toys clean and stored properly is essential for your health and the toy’s longevity. Clean your dildo with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner, after every use. Always follow the manufacturer’s directions, especially for glass, silicone, or metal toys. Usually, avoid silicone-based lubes or harsh chemicals on silicone toys.
For storage, keep your dildo in a clean, dry space, preferably in a soft pouch or toy bag to shield it from dust and damage. Avoid placing different materials together to prevent reactions or stickiness.
Replace your dildo if it is cracked, discolored, or has a persistent smell. Proper care will help your silicone toy last a long time!
How to Build Confidence and Enjoy Your Dildo Safely and Happily?
Confidence comes from a positive mindset and openness to discovering pleasure without fear of judgment. Remember, everyone is different—there is no “right way” to experience pleasure.
Find a safe and quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Take your time, use plenty of lube, and experiment with speed, angles, and pressure. Listen to your body and adjust as needed.
Online communities and forums can offer help, inspiration, and a sense of community if you want it.
With a sexual partner, communication is key to making the experience as pleasurable as possible. Share what you enjoy and don’t enjoy, and talk about possibilities to ensure safety and pleasure.
Confidence builds with practice. Relax, enjoy yourself, and have fun exploring pleasure!
References
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- WebMD. “How to Use Sex Toys Safely.” https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-toys-safety
- LELO. “How to Clean and Care for Your Sex Toys.” https://www.lelo.com/sex-toys-care-cleaning-guide